General
Source: The Monitor
In all honesty, I am probably as lazy and selfish as he accused me. What I couldn't stomach was the fact that he expected me to change. He had come up with the idea to spend different nights at each other's houses following our new Umeme rotation. "That way, we shall never feel the burden of load shedding," he smiled.
On this particular day, we were at his house. Being a Sunday and with not much to do, I spent most of the day sleeping. He on the other hand had decided to ignore the rain and spend the hours cleaning and washing. He invited me to help him with the bed sheets to which I politely declined. He then asked me to sweep the compound which I also refused. By the time he suggested I feed the dogs and sweep the carpet, I had resolved to ignore him.
After a good hours rest, I took a bath and asked if he wanted to join me for lunch. I was offering to buy and was throwing in a massage later, since we would be spending the night my side of town. "There is food at the main house," he said referring to his uncle's house "there is no one but Angela there."
I had made it clear that I didn't like going to the main house earlier on in the relationship. I was reluctant despite there being no one and only agreed after he told me there was nsenene- my favourite. Once there, he then asked me to help his cousin Angela with the cooking. I pretended like I hadn't heard and followed him into the house in search of the promised nsenene.
"Help me take off the legs and feathers," he shocked me, referring to the uncooked pile. I had expected to find them already made and I frowned up at him. "I am doing this for you," he said his voice rising, "Don't start your diva ways."
I stood my ground and it was then that he asked me what positive influence I would be in his life. In the presence of his cousin, he went on to tell me how I couldn't cook or wash his clothes. I walked back to his house knowing he would follow me and deciding to take the fight there.
I then told him that if he wanted a maid, then he should very well date one. I pointed out that I had never asked him to do house work in my house and I expected the same from him.I grew up in a house where my father made his own tea and washed his own clothes.
I have been lucky to date guys who enjoy doing housework and I was not going to let this one undo years of feminist work. He called me selfish and lazy. To prove him wrong; I relieve him of the burden of dating me and told him I would be going home alone.